Why Can't We Talk?: What Teens Would Share If Parents Would Listen

Teenagers, especially in light of recent violent acts at schools, are in desperate need of understanding from their parents, yet many of them can't talk about the really important issues in their lives. Why Can't We Talk? What Teens Can't Tell Their Parents is written for teenagers by teenagers as a tool to improve communication and understanding between teens and their parents. The heart of the book is a collection of writings from teenagers from all economic, social and ethnic backgrounds who write with heartfelt honesty about the situations in their lives that they are unable to discuss with their parents. They also share their frustrations with their parents, who are often unwilling to listen. The messages from these contributors will help teen readers realize that they are not alone in the feelings, and will offer them alternative ways to express their concerns and fears.

Each chapter contains contributions from about twenty teenagers and ends with a recap of the main concerns by Trujillo, including observations, inspirational encouragement, and suggestions and challenges for future actions. Chapters include: Understand Me; Expectations; Communication; Trust; Divorce; Acceptance; Alcohol; Drugs; Sex; Advice to Parents; and Hope.

While the book is primarily for teenagers, the hope is that teens can use the book to begin a dialog with their parents on the issues covered. Teens are encouraged to share sections that are relevant to their lives with their parents, allowing parents a window into their child's hearts and an opening for talking with their child. For many teens, an improvement in communicating with their parents will naturally lead to healthier decision making. This book provides readers with a positive first step they can take to improve their relationships with their parents.